Breakups and divorce can bring a lot of pain, hurt and anger. Yet, many of us normally harbor the secret hope of winning our lovers back to our side one day. So, the underlying question is how to win your ex back regardless of your situation.
First of all, it is important to know the reason for the breakup which normally does not happen overnight. Realizing and acknowledging the problem is the first step towards reconciliation. Then forgive yourself and also forgive your ex if you are really serious about winning him or her back.
TEST
In a breakup, one is not happy with something about the other partner. Perhaps, there is a blind spot which you have ignored for too long that needs correction. A strong relationship means accepting each other for his or her faults and still loving without first demanding a change. But don't try to be what you are not; just be what you are.
Do not rush into it. Be confident, calm, and be happy. But never be desperate. If you show any clinginess towards him or her, he or she is going to run the other way. If you are indifferent (at least outwardly) about the breakup your ex will probably start to wonder why.
Perhaps you can set a time to meet with him over a cup of coffee or tea. When he gets there be nice, but don't overdo. When he's ready to go let him! Continue being aloof with him. This will let him think that you're better then him and that he shouldn't let you go after all.
Keep the door open for communication. Remember, words have the power of life and
death. It can kill a relationship and likewise, revive it. Simply by saying the right
words at the right time, you can break the heart. If you talk one-
Try to keep your conversations focused on his or her interest. During this time, make sure you show your ex what he or she missing in you. The bottom line is the more you can make you ex miss you, the more chance you will win him or her back and be together.
